Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction

June is an interesting month. No real surprise that I would be making this big transition in June. While the school calendar naturally makes this a transitional month for a lot of people, for me, it’s the month I was married (25 years ago), and it’s the month my mother died (6 years ago).

Eleven years ago this month, I walked into this house for the first time. At that time, we knew living here was a stretch for us financially, but I loved the childhood that I had in Northwest Bergen County (New Jersey). I wanted the same for my daughter. We struggled over the summer to figure out a way to make it happen. We figured it out and we were able to purchase the house in September.

We agreed that we would do what we needed to do to stay here until our daughter was able to reap all the benefits that the school system had to offer. We focused on June 2018. High School graduation so far away. That’s when we’d downsize.

A lot has changed, but here I am fulfilling that vision from so long ago. The “Congratulations Graduate” sign is out front with the “Under Contract” sign. And more importantly, everything I needed to achieve to get to this month, I achieved. Much of it was from hard work and being focused, but much of it too was because I held on to that vision.

I’ve talked about the important role “visualization” can play in big races. Visualizing your journey along the course, visualizing a strong finish, the time on the clock as you cross the finish line, can all create actual positive results. The same holds true for life. Holding onto the vision of what you want it to be and trusting in the Universe to deliver does actually work. It’s called manifesting, also known as the Law of Attraction.

“The Law of Attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and that through the process of ‘like energy attracting like energy’ a person can improve his own health, wealth, and personal relationships.” (Wikipedia)

So funny story…almost two years ago my boyfriend mentioned a school out in Chicago that would be perfect for my daughter. I told him that I had to just hope she was doing her research and would find it on her own. I didn’t want to appear to be pushing her, and she’s certainly not the kind of kid that responds well to pushing. I did secretly think to myself, “Wow. How cool would that be?!” I allowed myself to create a vision of us all living in the same city – Chicago!

Five months after that conversation, my daughter told me that she found a school in Chicago that would be perfect! It was January and I suggested we go see the school as soon as possible and booked a quick trip to tour the school in February. She had been to Lollapalooza out there that past summer – but what’s not to like about Chicago in summer? She loved the school – even in winter in Chicago! She applied. She was accepted. And that’s where she’ll be going. No pushing from mom. We will all be in Chicago. Just like the vision I created for myself almost two years ago.

When I think back I realized I’ve manifested a lot of things in my life. My career directing fundraising events, the better job I needed to afford this house, my current coaching business, my relationship, and even smaller things like being accepted on my first attempt at the NYC Marathon lottery, or even a great parking space at the mall during the holidays.  Sounds silly, but it works.

Have you ever dreamed of something and made it so? If you’d like to experiment, here’s a handy guide The Huffington Post put out late last year: “7 Steps to Manifest Anything You Want.” I will also add that having a coach can really help. A coach will hold onto that vision for you and not let it slip away. I attribute a good part of the focus I need for this  transition to having a coach.  A coach who also believes in the Law of Attraction.

So, try it. Let me know how it goes. Believe in yourself. You have the power within yourself to make your vision a reality. Focus on the positive. June is a great month for that. I still don’t have everything worked out. I’m just maintaining a vision of what I want my life in Chicago to be. And I know I will be able to make it happen, Stay tuned.

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Sunrise over Chicago. May 2018.

 

What is The Cause?

What is The Cause?

We often talk about the connection between mind and body – visualizing positive outcomes, training our minds, the importance of building “mental fortitude” – during our physical training. While it’s important to consider the connection between mind and body (being as well as doing) as we look to achieve our goals, another important consideration is the soul (or feeling).

And that’s where the “cause” comes in. A cause by definition is something that gives rise to action. A cause can be positive, negative, personal or philanthropic, but it’s ultimately what motivates us. Read more

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The second half of 2012 marked a comeback for me after herniated disks sidelined me for close to a year. Months of physical therapy gave way to a very patient approach to running again. I gradually increased mileage until I felt comfortable entering a 5k and over the course of the next six months made my way back up to a 10-mile race in early December. All the while I visualized myself as a strong, capable runner, accomplishing each milestone. Read more

A challenge to be thankful for one thing everyday

A challenge to be thankful for one thing everyday

I was going to publish something totally different today and then this morning this “memory” from 2014 popped into my Facebook news feed:

What I’m positive about/thankful for…Day 5 of 5…

1. I can run, as it may be the only thing that’s keeping me sane (I’m also thankful for my amazing coach, Rob McCarthy, who also has me running fast, which is keeping my self esteem at an all time high);

2. I’m thankful for my friends…all of you…and especially a few in particular (who I won’t call out here in fear that someone not included may feel slighted)…the really special ones – you know who you are – you have been there when I needed you, you knew when to make me laugh, when to just listen, when I needed a pep talk, you knew the right thing to say, or knew when it was best to say nothing at all , you’ve made the last 5 months fly by and made sure I knew I was a survivor. Thank you!

3. And finally, my dog, because when all else fails, I never doubt that at least HE loves me.

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6 Reasons to Have a Plan

6 Reasons to Have a Plan

If you are in business, you plan. You work a plan in order to meet the goals of your position and your organization. Personally, you probably plan vacations. You make meal plans and follow recipes. Hopefully you have a budget and financial plan. If you are a runner like me, you probably have meticulously planned out your race calendar with a couple of big goal races, smaller races, and have built a training plan for the season, or maybe the entire year, around it.

But do you have a life plan? You probably have a vision of what your ideal life looks like “somewhere down the road,” but are you planning for it? Or are you simply living one day at a time figuring that everything will just fall into place? Once in awhile we get lucky and we do wind up where we want to be. More often than not though, we find ourselves at a crossroads and unprepared.

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