Grief & Loss – theCauseCoach

A different December

December 23, 2020January 9, 2021thecausecoach

December looks a little different this year. Our neighborhoods are still adorned with lights, our living rooms with decorations that reflect holidays past. But we all know this December is vastly different. If we’re not taking risks, we’ve planned intimate gatherings at home with our immediate family. Maybe others will join on Zoom. How many even knew what Zoom was last year?

On this day

October 6, 2020January 10, 2021thecausecoach

The feeling begins to emerge right after summer ends. When school resumes, not the official end to summer weeks later, long before the temperature dips and I start thinking about bringing out the sweaters, I start thinking about this day. This was the day – October 6th – that fell on a Monday that year and would forever change the course of our lives.

The Best Summer Ever! – that wasn’t

September 8, 2020January 10, 2021thecausecoach

The plans were hatched during the winter break. Summer 2020 was going to be the best summer ever. Two young women halfway through college were going to spend the summer in Chicago living on their own. The apartment belonged to one; her roommate would be moving out at the end of the semester. It was located just a few short blocks from Lake Michigan and about a mile and a half from the beach!

Six ways to go on living after loss

August 31, 2020January 10, 2021thecausecoach

“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” – Anne Lamott

Have you ever looked so particularly sad that someone would suggest that “you look like you lost your best friend.” So a deep sadness is defined by what you would feel if you lost your best friend? What if you have?

When Rules Don’t Apply to Me…I get anxiety

August 12, 2020January 9, 2021thecausecoach

Rules always apply. For everyone. I’m a “rules follower.” I always follow the rules. Doing the right thing is something that was ingrained in me in childhood. I hate getting scolded. There are times though that the choices we have to make aren’t so black and white and put our values in direct conflict with the rules.