How to live life after Facebook

How to live life after Facebook

In December, I explained why I was leaving Facebook. Last post we discussed shutting down Facebook and how to do that without loosing all your data: pictures, posts, friends lists, groups, pages. All of it. Now we’ll discuss what to do about these questions:

  • How will I know what’s going on with my friends?
  • How can I let people know about all the important things going on in my life?
  • How can I share my inspirational workout or race results and get the recognition I deserve?
  • Where will I get my news?
  • How will I build my business or stay connected to my professional network?

 

Go “old school” when it comes to keeping in touch with friends. Call them! Or not so “old school” – Skype or text or email. You know that you can’t really keep track of more than 150 relationships, right? (here’s the data on that) So I created a spreadsheet with 150 of the people that are most important to me who regard me with some importance as well. The spreadsheet has names, cell numbers, e-mail addresses, birthdays, and home addresses. I’m making it a goal to connect with people every week in a meaningful way. As much as Facebook connected us, it also made us lazy, and I believe, took away the personalization and heart in our connections. I want that back.

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Making real connections. On the Lakefront Trail. Chicago, Illinois. January 2020.

Build your own on-line presence. Early visions for the internet saw individuals having their own website, but along came Mark Zuckenberg and made it turn-key and free (if you consider giving away all your data “free”) for everyone to have an online presence. But (basic) WordPress is free too and with a little more ingenuity and creativity, you can have your own site. Having your own web page is like owning your own home – a unique home where you can be in control and furnish and decorate it in a way that works for you. This is my site: https://thecausecoach.net: This is Kurt’s: https://fliegel.com.

I have pages where I promote myself professionally, where I write my thoughts on various subjects (this blog), and where I share interesting articles and info like I used to on Facebook. Anyone can come and see what I share and comment if they like. No friend management necessary.

I also don’t think everything we’re experiencing in life needs to be shared publicly. Journaling our thoughts and making note of special memories is however important. DayOne is a great app for logging memories and journaling (honestly, check it out. It’s awesome!). I enter something everyday in my DayOne journal. Sometimes it’s a long post about what I’m experiencing and some days it might be a statement of gratitude or simply what I was doing. It always includes a photo. Everyday I can see “On This Day” posts so I have a flashback of memories – similar to what Facebook memories might share – but the entries often have much more depth.

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Making real connections. Over port-run coffee. Chicago, Illinois. January 2020.

Join other networks where you will find more people that actually care about your workout. Strava has become the social media of endurance athletes. If you think you’ll starve with out the affirmation brought by likes and loves, Strava has “Kudos” to help you feel loved and you often get them from total strangers that just share your love of running (or biking or swimming or skiing etc). Thanks to some added functionality, Strava is also a great place for groups. I’ve moved my CauseCrew running group off Facebook and onto Strava. I’d like to see more running clubs communicate with members through this site rather than making them feel out of the loop if they choose not to be on Facebook. I also like Instagram because of the visuals and hashtags. And yes, I know Instagram is owned by Facebook. For now, it’s a lesser evil.

Stop considering Facebook a news source. With the amount of inaccuracies flying around that site, it may actually be the worst place for real news. I subscribe to a daily (weekdays) email from The Skimm which provides a general overview of key news items (to subscribe, use this link: theskimm.com/SUBSCRIBE). Flipboard provides a variety of news sources and it can be set up to provide news on subjects of interest to you. Feedly (RRS Feed) can help you keep track of new content on all your friends personal (or business) sites and other websites of interest to you.

There are books to read, too. I am now making an effort each night before turning in to unplug and read from an actual book. Non-fiction, fiction, it doesn’t matter.

Take your business elsewhere! If you want to network professionally, LinkedIn has always been the better platform. if you are trying to promote your business, there may be other avenues as well. As it turned out, while Facebook shares were bringing readers to my blog, actual business was coming through my own networking (much of it done using MailChimp), from LinkedIn connections, and believe it or not, Instagram. And earlier this week, I had my first meeting with a potential client who found me because I gave them “Kudos” on Strava! So those are the places I’m putting my efforts.

 

I would love to hear from others. What are you doing differently this year to reduce screen time or make your social media experiences more meaningful? What sites are you on? What have you found to be better alternatives to Facebook?

 

 

A step-by-step how-to guide to “Unfriending” Facebook

A step-by-step how-to guide to “Unfriending” Facebook

I have been Facebook free for about 2 weeks now, and I don’t miss it. At. All. If you have a desire in this new year to reduce screen time (or would like to have a more sane election year, or not contribute to Zuck’s multi-billion dollar annual wealth increases, or one of many, many more issues), you may want to consider deleting Facebook too.

I know we all have a love-hate relationship with Facebook and there are a lot of reasons why you keep holding on. Today I’m going to deal with one issue I have heard frequently: What about all my pictures, friends list, and my creative and witty posts? That’s a lot to lose!

The answer to that is save you data! You can download your data! Yes, all of it! Friends. Groups. Comments. Posts. Pages. Events. Photos and videos. The list goes on. Here is a quick and easy step-by-step guide:

Once you are ready to delete you account (this way you have all the right-up-to-the-last-minute data), click on the down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your page. Scroll down and click on Settings.

Screen Shot A Go to Settings

Then click on Your Facebook Information which will bring you to the screen below. Click on Download Your Information.

Screen Shot 2 Download Your Information

The next step is to Request Copy of your files. Choose All of my data (you can always delete from the file later) and HTML (so it looks like what you’re used to). For the best quality photos, it’s recommended that you go with Media Quality: High. Now click on Create File. 

Screen Shot 3 Select All

Once the file is ready you will get a message (and an email) letting you know it can now be downloaded on to your Mac or PC. Click on Download and select a location on your computer where it can be easily found and accessed.

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Your file will look like this. And when you click on each of the headings, all you “stuff” will be there looking very similar to the way it did on Facebook (the list goes on, this is just the first couple categories).

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Now you are ready to delete your account. Go back to the Your Facebook Information page. Click on Deactivation and Deletion at the bottom of the list which will bring you to this page with two choices. Deactivate Account is not permanent, allows you to reactive and also continue to use messenger. But if you’re really committed, go for Permanently Delete Account as I did! The caveat here is to NOT log on to Facebook (even accidentally) for 30 days, or your account will be reactivated (even when choosing the permanent option). So, if you’re serious, delete the Facebook app from all your devices and DO NOT click on any Facebook links. ANY. For 30 days.

Screen Shot 5 permanently delete account

So congratulations! You’re done with Facebook. Now what? In the next blog post, we’ll discuss the answers to these pressing questions:

  • How will I know what’s going on with my friends?
  • How can I let people know about all the important things going on in my life?
  • How can I share my inspirational workout or race results and get the recognition I deserve?
  • Where will I get my news?
  • How will I build my business or stay connected to my professional network?

 

A look back at the 2010s

A look back at the 2010s

The turning of the calendar page last week also signaled the end of the decade. How were your last 10 years? For me it was the best of times and the worst of times. Mostly I felt like I was in survival mode, but in looking back now I feel pretty bad-ass and realized I actually did accomplished a lot. Running and exercise was a big part of life and not only helped me stay sane, but empowered me and made me feel strong. Read more

A look back on 2019

A little snow overnight put me on the treadmill this morning. It was a good day for that kind of monotony on my easy four-mile run. New Year’s Eve is a time for self-reflection and mediation and it’s very easy to get lost in thought when you don’t have to think about much else for 40 minutes. Read more

“The Holidays” are a season, not a day

The holiday season that, for most,  began on Thanksgiving (or even just after Halloween for the early revelers) is quickly coming to a close. Officially, Christmas season ends with the Feast or the Magi or Little Christmas on January 6. For most people, going back to work or school after New Year’s Day signals the end of the holiday season. Read more