Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction

June is an interesting month. No real surprise that I would be making this big transition in June. While the school calendar naturally makes this a transitional month for a lot of people, for me, it’s the month I was married (25 years ago), and it’s the month my mother died (6 years ago).

Eleven years ago this month, I walked into this house for the first time. At that time, we knew living here was a stretch for us financially, but I loved the childhood that I had in Northwest Bergen County (New Jersey). I wanted the same for my daughter. We struggled over the summer to figure out a way to make it happen. We figured it out and we were able to purchase the house in September.

We agreed that we would do what we needed to do to stay here until our daughter was able to reap all the benefits that the school system had to offer. We focused on June 2018. High School graduation so far away. That’s when we’d downsize.

A lot has changed, but here I am fulfilling that vision from so long ago. The “Congratulations Graduate” sign is out front with the “Under Contract” sign. And more importantly, everything I needed to achieve to get to this month, I achieved. Much of it was from hard work and being focused, but much of it too was because I held on to that vision.

I’ve talked about the important role “visualization” can play in big races. Visualizing your journey along the course, visualizing a strong finish, the time on the clock as you cross the finish line, can all create actual positive results. The same holds true for life. Holding onto the vision of what you want it to be and trusting in the Universe to deliver does actually work. It’s called manifesting, also known as the Law of Attraction.

“The Law of Attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and that through the process of ‘like energy attracting like energy’ a person can improve his own health, wealth, and personal relationships.” (Wikipedia)

So funny story…almost two years ago my boyfriend mentioned a school out in Chicago that would be perfect for my daughter. I told him that I had to just hope she was doing her research and would find it on her own. I didn’t want to appear to be pushing her, and she’s certainly not the kind of kid that responds well to pushing. I did secretly think to myself, “Wow. How cool would that be?!” I allowed myself to create a vision of us all living in the same city – Chicago!

Five months after that conversation, my daughter told me that she found a school in Chicago that would be perfect! It was January and I suggested we go see the school as soon as possible and booked a quick trip to tour the school in February. She had been to Lollapalooza out there that past summer – but what’s not to like about Chicago in summer? She loved the school – even in winter in Chicago! She applied. She was accepted. And that’s where she’ll be going. No pushing from mom. We will all be in Chicago. Just like the vision I created for myself almost two years ago.

When I think back I realized I’ve manifested a lot of things in my life. My career directing fundraising events, the better job I needed to afford this house, my current coaching business, my relationship, and even smaller things like being accepted on my first attempt at the NYC Marathon lottery, or even a great parking space at the mall during the holidays.  Sounds silly, but it works.

Have you ever dreamed of something and made it so? If you’d like to experiment, here’s a handy guide The Huffington Post put out late last year: “7 Steps to Manifest Anything You Want.” I will also add that having a coach can really help. A coach will hold onto that vision for you and not let it slip away. I attribute a good part of the focus I need for this  transition to having a coach.  A coach who also believes in the Law of Attraction.

So, try it. Let me know how it goes. Believe in yourself. You have the power within yourself to make your vision a reality. Focus on the positive. June is a great month for that. I still don’t have everything worked out. I’m just maintaining a vision of what I want my life in Chicago to be. And I know I will be able to make it happen, Stay tuned.

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Sunrise over Chicago. May 2018.

 

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